Recently I have had several old friends/acquaintances message me out of concern for sick family members, etc. and some have turned into very interesting conversations. I also have been thinking a lot about loved ones who are no longer with us lately and how they helped shape me.
I was also inspired by my Sister's most recent blog post over at Teal Momologue: http://tealmomologue.wordpress.com/2014/01/08/no-matter-how-you-feel/
She stated she has a new motto from now on and it got me to thinking about several things in my life. I have never really set New Years resolutions. I have always just had one main goal in life. To TRY to be a better person than I was yesterday. Learn something new, forgive someone, check something off a to-do list I have been putting off, get a little more organized, take a deep breath and relax, etc.
I decided to write this blog about my Compass. The things that people have taught me along the way that have touched me and stuck in my brain. Some of these things I have had to learn the hard way, but nonetheless great lessons learned.
Image Credit dayviews.com
- The 4 Fs of your House - In this order: Faith, Family, Finances and Friends. Material things can come and go. Keep your House of Fs in order and the rest will fall into place.
Every day I wake up and say a similar prayer...not really any more...definitely no less. I THANK God first and foremost for everything he has given Josh and I...for his many, many blessings. (Even on a bad day.) Then I pray for forgiveness of our sins and to help us be better Christians. To watch over us, our family and friends and animals, etc...
God is our North Star...we can always look up and see the brightest star in the sky and know that he has a plan for us. It may not be as fast as we would like sometimes, but I have always believe things happen for a reason. It is not up to us to always understand...it is for us to have Faith and Believe.
- Say what you mean and mean what you say. Let your word be your bond! DON'T MAKE EMPTY PROMISES.
- Manners go a long way. Saying please, yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes sir, no sir, yes please or no thank you is pretty standard in the South. The one manner that goes further than any other, but is under used now days is THANK YOU. Some times a simple Thank You from someone would be all it takes to make some one happy. That simple acknowledgement that someone received your gift and appreciated your thoughtfulness. It could mean the difference between a waiter being in a bad mood or a good mood. You could put a smile on someones face simply by saying those two words. The Attitude of Gratitude. Think about it...
- Live Simple. Enjoy the finer things in life. You will go broke and crazy trying to keep up with the Jones'. It took me part of my adult years to realize that it is NOT about the car you drive, how much you paid for your cell phone, the house you live in, the name brand on any item, etc. You can have all the name brand or fancy things in life and still be unhappy or "missing something". Don't give into society telling us that we have to have the biggest, fanciest and most expensive.
- Learn the value of a dollar. You will appreciate everything you have once you learn this. You are not entitled to anything in this world. No one owes you anything. Get up, do your chores and earn your keep or get up, got to work and earn your paycheck for your skills.
- Fight for what you believe in. Keep your goals. Have dreams. Stand up for your beliefs. Don't let anyone ever put you down or bully you. Enjoy the things you like. Be who you are...but be it for you.
- You are NOT irreplaceable. This goes for a job or a relationship. If you won't do what you should be doing at work...someone else will.
- Don't talk about people behind their back. If you wouldn't say it to their face...don't say it at all. Things have a way of circling back around.
- Learn to say YES - don't miss an opportunity to dress up, go out with family or friends and make new memories.
- Learn to say NO - you can't take on the world. Sorry...we are not Superwoman or Superman. (Yeah, yeah...some of you think you are, but even Superman had kryptonite) Don't be afraid to say no to somethings. A full plate is overwhelming and stressful.
- Learn to say MAYBE - it never hurts to take some time to think on a tough decision. It is better to take a couple of days than to rush into an answer and then have to be wishy-washy and change it later.
- Never let Family or Friends "borrow" money. It causes hard feelings and resentment when they don't pay you back like they "said" they would. If you give family or friends money...just consider it a gift and move on. If you ever get it back...consider it a miracle.
- FORGIVE. Keeping chains wrapped around your heart by the people who have hurt you or wronged you in some way, only drags YOU down. Forgiving someone for their trespasses against you breaks those chains and lifts that weight off of your heart, allowing you to move on and forward. Learn your lesson...don't allow it to be "hurt me twice, shame on ME."
- Leave home at home and work at work. You don't get paid to handle your personal problems at work and your family doesn't want to hear you whine and complain about work drama every day. KEEP them separate. In our house, we use the analogy of wiping your feet on the mat at the door...leave it right there and don't bring it in. It will be there waiting tomorrow.
- DON'T tell everything you know! Ohhh my goodness...where do I even begin with this one? Now days people use Facebook as their personal "Dirty Laundry Airing Service". Geeze Louise...Moma always said "don't tell all your business" and we sure learned not to tell the outside world our personal home business.
The other day I had the opportunity to go to lunch with an Attorney, after a Seminar, and learned some interesting things over the course of the conversation. This my friends is why I do work at work and don't air all of my business over Social Media....
Anything you put online NEVER GOES AWAY! Emails you send from work don't PERMANENTLY delete! Servers...especially your work servers store your emails (and dirty jokes/political jokes/pictures) and most companies now days track your productivity and internet usage....yes lawdy that mean you slackers who are on Facebook ALL DAY at work...hahahaha. YEP it is being tracked and stored! Some are even taking screen shots of your computer screen...GASP! Now - me personally I already knew that...I had a sneaky boss who was doing that kind of stuff 10 years ago. But, the interesting twist to the conversation was that if the company ever got sued for any reason and emails or internet history ever got subpoenaed...they would likely be looking at everyone's communications...including all those crass jokes or rude comments about another co-worker. Just a little something to think about before you hit send from work next time...
- Give Back / Pay It Forward - a lot of church going people tithe the 10% to their church each month by way of the Sunday offering plate.
Sew good seeds in life and you are sure to reap good rewards.
Please feel free to comment on what has helped shape you into the person you are today or points your Compass True North! Until next post...
"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." -E.E. Cummings
Love to all,